What to Look for When You’re Out of Esteem
• Rudeness and defiance • Attention-getting misbehavior • Breaking the rules intentionally • Lying to save face • Running away and dropping out • Withdrawal • Use of stimulants • Fantasy, day-dreaming, and • Acting out boisterously trancing out • Lying and cheating • Crying and depression • Physical aggressiveness • Passive resistance • Yelling and screaming
• Indecisiveness • Complaining and self-pity • Refusal to comply or cooperate • Anxiety and worry • Extreme aloofness and withdrawal • Depression and fatigue • Snobbish, put-down remarks, and • Psychosomatic problems sarcasm • Malicious judgement about yourself or • Refusal to communicate: the silent others treatment • Herd mentality exhibited in blind • Perfectionism due to severe following of leaders performance anxiety • Authoritarianism and phobic reactions • Highly critical attitudes toward yourself or others
LEADERSHIP STYLES a la TRUE COLORS
• Expects quick action • Expects others to express their views • Assumes flexibility • Assumes a “family spirit” • Works in here and now • Works to develop others’ potential • Flexible approach • Democratic, unstructured approach • Welcomes change • Encourages change via human potential • Institutes change quickly • Provides time for development of sense • Expects people to “make it fun” of security during change • Expects people to develop their potential
• Expects intelligence and competence • Expects punctuality, order, loyalty • Assumes task relevancy • Assumes there is a “right” way to do • Seeks ways to improve systems things • A visionary • Seldom questions tradition • Analytical approach • Is rules oriented • Encourages change for improvement • Detailed/thorough approach • Expects people to follow - through • Threatened by change if not proven “right” • Prolonged time to initiate any change • Expects people to “play” their roles
The following represents a sampling of responses from several thousand people when asked to describe and share their values, joys, strengths, needs and stresses. The responses came from all genders, cultures, and ethnicity. You can expect these types of responses as you use the brightening process!
Values Blue Green Orange Gold Honesty Intellectual Freedom Loyalty Friendship Achievements Adventure Dependability Sensitivity Logic Fun/Play Perfectionism Harmony Knowledge Spontaneity Responsibility Compassion Competency Variety Honesty
Joys Blue Green Orange Gold Romance High Achievement People Time for Family Family Recognition of ideas Fun Job Satisfaction Friendships Personal Achievement Adventure Home Music Meeting challenges Excitement Order Affection Performing Sense of Family
Strengths Blue Green Orange Gold Communication Confidence Independence Organization Creativity Analysis/Analytica Flexibility Commitment l Nurturing Logic Taking Action Consistency Sincerity Problem-Solving Energy Responsibility Listening Determination Optimism Dependability
Needs Blue Green Orange Gold Harmony Challenge Freedom Stability People Need to understand Variety Consistency Understanding Autonomy Money Organization Love Truth & Facts Recognition Appreciation Affection Accuracy Expression Time
Stresses/Frustrations Blue Green Orange Gold Disharmony Rules Being on time Lack of Control Uncaring Unfairness Unnecessary Routine Change Time Limits Incompetency Waiting Disloyalty Insincerity Confusion Lack of $$$ $$$ Insecurity Lack of Romance Nonsense rules Inconsistency
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